In the interest of full disclosure, here's a news release about the other side of the adultery story...with comments, of course.

All Roads Don't Lead to Adultery, Says Author of 'Adultery: 101 Reasons Not to Cheat'
Adultery victim claims it is a disguised detour en route to personal demise. (Nothing enhances 'personal demise' like being stuck in a bad marriage.)

December 15, 2006 -- If you are even thinking about cheating on your spouse, Paul Davis has 101 good reasons why you shouldn't. His book, Adultery: 101 Reasons Not to Cheat, which he likens to spiritual sustenance, is a weapon with which to war against the enemy, thereby securing your matrimonial bliss. (Uh, good luck with that. Adultery isn't always a response the marital unhappiness, for one thing. For another, staying faithful has nothing to do with "securing matrimonial bliss." It's not like if you don't cheat, a bad marriage will be made good.)

Readers are forewarned about the dangers of adultery and the living hell thereafter, they glimpse the repercussions of adultery, and they learn the consequences of immoral behavior, how to guard their own hearts, and what it means to value their marriages--something lacking in a society in which more than half of all marriages end in divorce. (Pick your poison, people.)

Says Davis, "I have been the victim of adultery and know experientially the personal hell it is to endure emotionally. As a traveling man, I have both encountered sexual temptation and know how to overcome it. Adultery makes up a big part of the divorce rate. TV shows and movies portray adultery as acceptable in society. Adultery is unacceptable and promises a judgment to follow." (At least a judgment is sure to follow from this guy, if you care.)

A minister whose wife had an affair, Davis says his book will "scare the hell out of you" because adultery is a living hell and divorce is akin to death. (Really? Is that why men have been known to say, "Why is divorce expensive? Because it's worth it.") Instead of becoming another casualty of careless infidelity, be forewarned and forearmed concerning the dangers of adultery. Or, as Davis puts it, "Be armed for battle to overcome temptation. Arrest the adversary before he beguiles and destroys you."

Paul Davis resides in Orlando, Florida. He has worked as a master NLP practitioner and life coach, licensed minister (International Foursquare Church), and pastoral counselor. (I have about as much faith in someone who's a "licensed minister" as I do in one of those funky "flying imams," who get their designation via a vote. Nothing like a bunch of ignoramouses voting for another ignoramous to lead them, Nancy Pelosi being a prime example.)

Here's my latest news release...read it, learn it, live it! :)

MARRIED AND HOPING FOR A HOLIDAY HOOK-UP? FIRST, KNOW THE RULES


It’s Christmas and holiday time, that special time of year when the frustrated, the bored, the sex-deprived and the married converge at oh-so-festive office and industry parties looking to make an extramarital hook-up. Logical? You bet…but not too smart, according to Judith E. Brandt, author of THE 50-MILE RULE: Your Guide to Infidelity and Extramarital Etiquette (Ten Speed Press, $12.95, 1580084141).

“Smart adulterers – those who want to go about their business without alerting their spouses – follow the rules,” says Ms. Brandt, whose brand of unconventional advice to the married-but-lovelorn has earned her the title of “the Bin Laden of love” from conservative commentator Tucker Carlson. “In this case, it’s the 50-mile rule – that spouse and lover should live at least 50 miles apart – that applies in a big way. You should never have an affair with anyone in your work or social circle, no matter how tempting the situation…and no matter how strong the beer goggles you’re wearing.”

Why? Because office and same-industry affairs generally lead to nothing but trouble you can do without. “One of the keys to successful affair management is knowing that actions have consequences, and office affairs can lead to all sorts of consequences, most of them bad,” says Ms. Brandt, whose book offers not just tips on how to keep both your marriage and extramarital activities running smoothly, but how to extricate yourself from an affair gone sour…although happy results aren’t guaranteed.

And affairs at work, even one-night stands or broom-closet blitzes, can lead to all sorts of complications. “For one thing, it’s hard to keep an active affair off the radar screen of your co-workers. If nothing else, body language will give you away. And what happens when you're sick of the account exec down the hall, but she’s still crazy about you? At the very least, you might have to change jobs…or fend off a sexual harassment lawsuit.”

There are no secrets in modern offices, either. “Cel phones, the internet, e-mail, Ims, Blackberries…there are all sorts of ways that someone who has it in for you professionally can get the goods on you personally. That cel-phone video of you half-drunk and groping the guy from accounting isn’t going to stay in memory for long. It’s going to circulate, probably to your boss and maybe to your husband. It’s just not worth it.”

Which is not to say that having an affair is necessarily wrong, says Ms. Brandt. What IS wrong, is going about it in a sexual, emotional or drunken daze, with no thought to what happens if you’re discovered. “Affairs can rekindle feelings and emotions in you that you may have believed long buried. For some people, they’re the only things that make a long-term marriage tolerable. But successful cheaters play it smart, realizing that affairs, no matter how intense, often amount to little more than detours off the matrimonial highway.” After all, THE 50-MILE RULE author claims, once you start to cheat, you generally want to continue, and that’s hard to do if you’ve got an aggrieved spouse cracking the whip over some discovered indiscretion.

So play it smart this holiday season. “Office romances are convenient, but that’s the only thing they’ve got going for them. The successful affair is the undiscovered affair. Don’t go out of your way to advertise your infidelity to the people you have to work with every day. Your secrets aren’t safe with them.”

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from the UK News, Dec. 4, 2006 --

Women Confess Infidelity to Hairdressers -- (probably not of the "Supercuts variety. :)

More than two-thirds of women having an affair tell their hairdresser before they tell anyone else, a survey revealed today/Sun. But the survey also showed that fewer than a third of men will share their secret while having their hair cut.

Nearly 600 members of extra-marital dating website IllicitEncounters.com were asked: "Who would be the first person you would tell if you were having an affair?" Nationally, hairdressers came top at 73 per cent for women, but only 29 per cent of men felt comfortable sharing their secret with their’s. Second for women was a complete stranger, third a parent, fourth their best friend, fifth a work colleague, sixth a solicitor, seventh their partner, eighth a male friend.

For men, top of the list was best friend, followed by work colleague, solicitor, parent, a female friend, their hairdresser, a complete stranger and, finally, their partner.

Regionally, hairdressers came top across the country in all but Northern Ireland, the Scottish Islands and Mid-Wales, where they were all third, with 81 per cent of women in Surrey putting hairdressers top. Only two per cent of men in the north-east of England and south Wales told their hairdresser or barber first. Members were also asked who they would first tell if they were considering having an affair. Hairdressers came top for women (89 per cent), and best friend top for men (61 per cent).

A spokeswoman for IllicitEncounters.com said: "Affairs in this context relate to an utterly secret life, not as something that will lead to the breaking up of a marriage or family. The range of reasons for conducting an affair is vast – some people know that time is passing, their relationship is dead or lacking, and that this is perhaps the best way for them to have a life while not upsetting others. (a great point - people don't necessarily want their spouses to know that they -- the spouse -- may no longer be that interesting, attractive, or appealing. In this kind of situation, secrecy is a kindness.) The vast majority of members are normal people who are not getting from their partner what they need - that can be basic attention, a little romance, fun, travel, or, candidly, safe sex." (amen to this list.)

"Sometimes affairs erupt from simply meeting and hitting it off with a workmate or somebody they meet at a party, or for any number of chance reasons. But there are a great number of people who think very hard before carefully researching the concept of having an affair, plan in detail how they’re going to conduct it and then look very deeply at the sort of person with whom they want to have an affair." Males having or wanting an affair are most likely to come from London, the West Midlands, Essex, Hampshire, Lancashire, Surrey, Kent, West Yorkshire or Cheshire, while the least likely are from Northern Ireland, the Scottish Islands, the Scottish Borders, Isle of Man, Isle of Wight or Anglesey, the survey showed.

For females, the most likely are from London, the West Midlands, Surrey, Essex, Kent, Lancashire, Hampshire, Cheshire, West Yorkshire or Hertfordshire. The least likely are from Northern Ireland, Powys, Gwynedd, the Isle of Man and Scottish islands.

IllicitEncounters.com is now running a pilot scheme in the Luton area, inviting hairdressers to introduce their clients to IlicitEncounters.com. A spokeswoman added: "We’re not looking to promote affairs, but we want to ensure anyone who needs us finds us." (smart marketing! :)